Mika, my love

Mika came into my life in 2005, as a puppy, a mere 3 weeks old. Her eyes weren't completely open, and she could barely move.

I taught her how to eat my dipping her face into puppy porridge, and later I taught her how to fetch a ball and to "DROP!".

She gave birth to a few pups, only once, because after having kids of her own, and we, evil human masters, gave her kids away, she got cat fever. She wouldn't eat at the doggy hospital, so, my dad sneaked in a crap load of beef jerky, and kept her going. Obviously she survived.

Mika and my dad have had a special bond since that time. She wasn't a boring dog either. She was the master of the yard, our two males seem feminine compared to her. She was the gate keeper, along with the fence watcher, and a scare crow against the doves that stole their dog food.

If a door was slightly ajar, she would investigate by opening the door standing on her hind legs. She was "Sheriff".

She always had to lie on the highest pillow or sofa in the room.

She had to bully our other female canine, Jewel. Constantly climbing on her back, growling at her. Even in the middle of the night when she had to get up to wee-wee. Constantly making sure that everyone knew that she was the boss.

Today I came home, and as usual thought that Mika was on the sofa in the house. It happens a lot that I park my car and she doesn't greet me. Other days she runs outside the gate, barks at the neighbor's dog, and comes back to be the first to jump into the car.

Neither of the scenarios happened today.

My mom came home, and Mika ran out to bite some innocent bystanders.

A car hit her.

My dad said that she wasn't in pain, she got a nasty knock to the head, and her hind legs. We suspect that her back was broken. The guy that drove into her cried out of guilt or sadness, and its OK. It's not his fault. My parent's brought Mika into the house, and put her on a blanket. Her breaths were shallow, her tongue hung out, and her one eye looked glassy. She wasn't in pain, she did not move, she did not moan or growl.

My mom and dad comforted her as she was dying. And then she gave her last breath.

They took her body to the vet to cremate. A dog is a part of the family. They deserve a respected burial. They protect us, they love us, they entertain us, and we feel comfort in their presence.

She was not thrown into the garbage like a bird that was killed by a cat.

She was loved.

She will be missed.

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10 Things to do to get over your ex

Stop stalking him! Don't message him, or drive around to see where he is, and don't call him! Especially when you are intoxicated, sad, and lonely.

Get rid of all his stuff. All the flowers, letters, photos, little stupid things that he used to get you to like him more, all of it! It is all just reminders of who you were, and how "happy" you were. Don't let it get to you. Do what I did. BURN IT TO HELL!

Delete all of his details, Facebook, Twitter, cell phone contact, messages, everything! This actually goes with numbers 1 and 2, but if you don't have him as a friend or a contact, it makes temptation easier.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. This is probably the most difficult task, because most break-ups lead to sadness and depression. Rather change your mindset to "I dodged a bullet". You can be happier with someone else, and you can make someone else happier. You are going to marry someone awesome who fits in with your family, friends, and lifestyle.

Don't harm yourself. I know that I am a hypocrite in this area, but it only leads to more problems. Don't drink your sorrows away, and most importantly, suicide is never the answer!

Be positive! Spend time with friends and family that make you happy, and people that understand you. Don't try to reason with people that you don't like, or won't support you in the way that is needed. You have other people in your life that can make you happy, although not in a romantic way, but in a comforting way, where trust, respect, and love will never be questionable.

Stay away from people that remind you of your ex. His friends and family, and then, even more importantly, random strangers that act like him, or look like him. If it didn't work the first time, it won't work the next time. The definition of insanity is doing something over and over in the same way, and expecting different results. That's just stupid.

The way you spend your time, is your decision now. You don't have to worry about your other half being part of something, or having to know what your doing with who. If you have a bucket list, or something you've been dying to do, now is the time. Go dancing, go bungee jump, go kiss that guy that you've been interested in, but couldn't have. Experiment with new ideas, new hobbies, or spend time doing the things you couldn't do... My hobby, obviously... BLOGGING! There has to be something you've wanted to do, think about it, plan it, stiffen up your lady balls, and go do it! Your life is short, don't waste it by sobbing over the past.

Obviously all humans need an intimate or romantic relationship. Just not with your ex. If you are still seeing him, even if you are just using him, stop, and find someone else. Maybe someone finds you. The rule here is not to get involved with someone you don't like. Cut your losses. You don't have to pounce on the first guy that talks to you. You need a healthy relationship. You don't have to start dating again right away. When you are ready, get someone better. You can do it!

Count your blessings. Make sure that the people you cherish in this life knows it. If you have a good job, or studies, focus on that. Don't over work yourself to numb the pain. Exercise. Eat well. Take care of yourself. Remember that this is your life, and only you can determine your own happiness. Let go of your anchors, and don't let anybody get you down. You are who you are, and although I am an atheist, I love saying this. "God made me in his image, if he wanted me differently, he would have made me that way..."

Pick yourself up, look for that silver lining on that blackened cloud, and if you can't find it, create it! There is nothing wrong with you. Not your body. Not your mind. And you are not useless or stupid.

Do what makes you happy!